“Don’t give it All away on the First Date!”

Often times we may meet a woman or men that we have great chemistry with and as a result of that connection, we tend to give away everything too fast. By everything I mean, Sex on the first date, He or She  knowing our life stories within the first couple of hours of talking to us, and if we have kids, introducing these people to our kids not knowing who this person will be to us. Not knowing if this person is in our lives for a Reason, Season, or Lifetime.  We honestly don’t think like that, we start thinking with our expectations or lustful thoughts; then we are confused as to what happened when our relationship ends so fast or even why we have become that man or woman’s bed lay.

It’s because we are “Giving Too Much Too Fast” slow down…Yes all of us want to be loved or in love and that is a wonderful thing but in this day and time people don’t love they way that they used too. Folks intentions aren’t always genuine towards us and although we always want to see the good in whom we are interested in, we have to try to hold some of those emotions back to see what the person is really there for.


  1. Do that old-fashioned dating thing. Hang out (And not at each other’s homes) 
  2. Keep your conversations light and fun, laugh. Change the subject if things start to get to deep. (Your personal business is none of theirs yet)
  3. Ask questions about that person, don’t let them bombard you with questions only about you. (Some look for vulnerabilities when asking you lots of questions)

Do wait before letting yourself go. It is essential in getting to know someone. Besides when you do too much too fast your relationship develops fast, which means it will get old and boring quickly. Believe me, I know, I have done it more than once. And really when you take your time to get to know someone,you save yourself from having regrets. You reserve your body and your heart for that special someone. Take your time. Us men and women are not leaving this planet anytime soon….


Signing Off,