Welcome to the short month of February, the month of Love & Romance. And it’s Leap Year so we get one extra day…Let the Valentine Day planning begin.
Remember Valentines Day isn’t only about sharing love with a husband or wife, boyfriend and girlfriend or any other partners, it’s about spreading the Love. So if that means treating yourself, do it, if it means having a Valentines Dinner with the girls, do it. Whatever makes your heart smile this month, I’d say do it. “Be Good to Yourself “
So we all know the phrase “You Can’t go through Life Alone” and in a lot of ways that phrase sits very true, but also for some situations it’s not. I think at this point in my life I’m starting to find out the hard way and it’s not easy to deal with.
Anyway, last year I remarried someone that I had been dating on and off for about 2 years and before the year was over I was divorced again. Yes divorced. As I have explained in previous blog posts, I felt a little alone since my kids had found their own lives and are adults now. I was looking for love and life again and finding myself. I guess that road got kind of scary for me. The thought of getting older and being alone and not having a life partner was not what I wanted for my life so when my ex-husband asked me to marry him. I quickly accepted him, knowing he was not what I wanted in a husband, but somehow, I thought I could still create a happy life with him. When in reality I was looking for happiness in him. Which was not right. And it’s funny he would always tell me that but I never wanted to see it. Well once he won the worst husband of the year award and showed me who he really was I decided to end the marriage. After that marriage ended I felt like such a failure and did not want to talk to anyone and tell them that the man I just married, I have now divorced. So, I kept it to myself; well that became torturous and forced me to really sit down and have a long look at myself and ask myself some tough questions that I didn’t want to answer. And the answer was the journey to finding my own happiness is no one’s but my own and I can’t expect to lean on anyone along the way or ill become dependent and never find it. It meant that my happiness journey was meant to be traveled alone. Who wants that? But I had to realize it is very necessary and you know what it’s not half bad. I still have my days where I get a little dependent on friends and family but for the most part, I’m doing great. I’m actually starting to like being alone and having moments of solitude and a bit antisocial.
Through this process, I have learned to wear my big girl drawers and walk alone and be happy doing it. I’m rediscovering my hobbies and even my career path. I’m learning to love and enjoy me more whether it includes someone or not. So, as you can see life is far from easy, we all definitely need a friend or shoulder to cry on at times, but again some paths are simply meant to be traveled alone.