Ladies it’s no secret that relationships and courting really sucks these days. Lots of men don’t feel that they have to put forward any effort in getting to know us anymore. Most of our relationships are built upon lust and benefits. We allow ourselves to continue to be used for what we feel are our prized possessions, which are our bodies or assets. All to fulfill the needs of another and wonder why in the end we still feel empty, lonely, and confused. Not realizing or wanting to deal with the fact that we need more than what today’s dating and relationship trends have to offer.
It’s absolutely nothing wrong with telling a man when you meet them that you want more. Yes, all relationships should go through a friendship/building process, but let it be just that. That process is when we should be showing him or beauty and all of the things that we have to offer, and not our booties. And if he can’t wait, he isn’t a good candidate for us. Because once we allow him to or we set that precedent we are stuck and things will not change. I know. I have made that mistake more than once and as a single woman today, I have to continue to be mindful of that and not put aside my needs and wants to make a man happy, because I know in the end, I’m only going to be left with my mouth wide open and wondering why my expectations were not met.
I say all that to say. “Get to know him before you allow them to know your body, benefits, or assets”. We all know that we have something else to offer besides our bodies and assets. But the only way he will be able to see that is by you not giving him your prized possessions too soon. I mean who wants useless lust and sex? Let him know that he has to work to earn what you have to give and share. Show him that you love yourself more so that he will have no choice but to find out what’s in the box before be take the goodies. I mean really ladies, if we set higher standards for ourselves and not accept what some man wants to give, we would really see a change in our dating lives and relationships because a man will only love, respect, and treat us as good as we love, respect, and treat ourselves. And we all know that self-love is the root of love itself. We can’t love or be loved if we don’t have self-love established first. I want to leave you with this quote for if a man doesn’t have a genuine interest in you;
” You don’t get to have Me, Not my Body, and sure as hell Not my Heart, were done” ~ Brooke Davis